In early stages of any relationship, it is easy to confuse between lust and love. Both emotions make you feel a kind of bliss that you’ve never experienced before – which is wonderful and joyous and something to celebrate – but make sure you know the difference between the two. Here we are giving you 5 clues to help you find the difference between lust and love.
- More Fire And Less Stability
Real love is all about communication and commitment. These two components lead to stability within a relationship. Fire is also important but when there are lots of drama, arguments and more emotional gut blows than butterflies, you are in a lustful situation.
- You Say What They Want to Hear
You constantly try to please them. When they ask you a question you reply with a more safer answer even though it might not fully express how you feel. You keep it real when you are in love. When you are in love, you don’t agree with everything they are saying and this is clearly stated by you. It is okay if your views and opinions are different. This does not mean that you not a good match; it just means that you are different people. Healthy debate is good as it helps you see things from different perspective.
- You Don’t Really Know Them
You only know the surface level information about them like blue is their favorite color, pizza is their favorite food but you have not dug deep down and there is a lot more to know about them.
When you are in love you know small insignificant details about them. For example, apart from knowing that their favorite color is blue you also know why this is so. For instance, their favorite color is blue because when they were small, it was their mother’s favorite color to dress them up in. You know all these little, beautiful facts about their past and this is who they are. You take time to really know them and still want to know more about them.
- You Don’t Feel Comfortable Talking to Them About Your Problems
Stress and tension can be relieved by talking about your problem. But you talk about your problems with someone you trust. This means you do not find them trustworthy to share your problems with them.
But when you are in love you talk to them about each and every problem in your life. You trust them and you find it comfortable to share with them the minor and major issues you are having, no matter how weird or embarrassing they are. You know they will not judge you after listening to you.
- There Is No Friendship
When a couple falls in love, there is a soft note of friendship between them. However, when this friendship fails to exist, it is nothing but lust that the two of them share. They just focus on getting involved physically rather than showing interest in any kind of commitment and communication.
Lust is a slow destroyer for any relationship. So, better observe and find it out in its early stages. We hope this blog will definitely help to make your relationship more healthy.